How to get started in The Sims 4

How to get started in The Sims 4

Starting out in The Sims 4 can feel a little overwhelming. There’s a lot to do from creating your Sim, to building your home, and then navigating the complexities of relationships, jobs, money, and lifestyle. Once you grasp it, you’ll realize that the beauty of The Sims 4 is the sheer scope of possibilities. Whether The Sims 4 is your first foray into EA's beloved life simulator franchise or you're a returning veteran from a past generation, The Sims 4 does everything a little bit differently, and there’s lots of new features in the base game alone. 

While we’ve got a guide to everything you need to build the best Sims 4 world, these tips and tricks are focused on how to get started out. If you’re looking for the quickest results, we’ve also got a Sims 4 cheats guide for that. For everything else the game has to offer in its early stages, from likes and dislikes to forming connections, here's how to get started in The Sims 4.

Create your Sim

Using the Create a Sim feature in The Sims 4

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Firstly, you’ll want to Create-a-Sim to build your unique household. While there’s a tutorial in the base game that’ll guide you through, there’s a few things you should know. The Sim you’re initially given is randomized, and while you can choose to keep it, or randomize again, you’re most likely going to customize it to suit exactly what you’re after.

In the top left panel, you can select your Sims name, gender, age group, build, all the way to the pitch and tone of your Sim’s voice. If you’re making multiple Sims, you’ll also be able to choose the relationship between the Sims.

In The Sims 4, you can even adjust whether a Sim can get pregnant or get others pregnant, which we’ll dive into more in a later tip, and set your Sim’s interests and aspirations. Finally, you can choose different outfits for different occasions, which your Sim can change into; everyday, formal, athletic, sleepwear, and party.

Design your home

A cityscape in The Sims 4

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Next up, from Manage Worlds, you’ll be able to select a lot to move your household into. There’s prebuilt homes, which you can keep furnished or unfurnished, or there’s ones with active households that you can play with, move out, or move your Sims in. If you’re purchasing an empty lot, you’ll head into Build mode to build all the exteriors from walls, front door, roof, and more. 

Then, you’ll choose the interiors. Learning how to turn furniture in The Sims 4 is an integral step. Then, you can use the Build/Buy mode to select items to place around your home from tables, chairs, beds, toilets, fridges, toys, and so much more. In the Gallery, you can also choose prebuilt rooms and homes.

You can even focus on the terrain around your lot. In The Sims 4, you can learn how to build a pond, add trees, and flowers in whichever way you see fit. If you’re feeling bold, you can use the Sims 4 debug cheat to unlock more items or the Sims 4 free build cheat to break out from the usual strict grid system.

Focus on your Sims’ moods

A woman cries into her hands in The Sims 4

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When you’re first starting Sims, you’ll begin in a tutorial home with a roommate. It’s here you’ll learn how to fulfil your Sim’s needs and ultimately, improve their mood. But, if you’re jumping right in, you’ll get the hang of it soon enough. If your Sim gets sad, angry, dirty, hungry, they can be very hard to control, and even in some cases, die. 

As is true to real life, Sims need you to solve their mood depending on what it is. Hungry? Eat some food. Tired? Go to bed. Bored? Watch some TV or play a game on the computer. Lacking social interaction? Phone a friend. You can track all this in the Sims’ interface menu and the better you look after them, the easier the game will be.

Get a job

A woman working as a police officer in The Sims 4

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Getting a job in The Sims 4 isn’t an essential part, but one that’ll give your Sim focus and earn you some Simoleons (more on this below). By interacting with your phone, using a computer, or accessing the Career Panel in the Sims’ interface in the bottom right, you can get a job. A window will appear offering you all the different careers available in The Sims 4 and while you can follow our guide to how to make more money in The Sims 4, it’ll also tell you the most lucrative careers.

Each career requires you to gain certain skills, do daily tasks, and/or make friends. For example, if you choose the Business career, you’ll need to know how to fill out reports in The Sims 4 for your daily task to lead to career progression. You can also use Sims 4 skill cheats to level up, if you’re tired of the grind.

Spend time making friends

Friends hugging in The Sims 4

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Again, like many aspects of The Sims 4, you can choose how you approach this. It’s up to you if you want to make friends or choose to lead a solitary life. Either is completely fine, unless your job requires it. Unfortunately, while it’s an avidly sought after feature, playing the Sims 4 multiplayer isn’t yet an option, although there’s a handy mod that might change that for you.

If you do choose to make friends, you can meet them by visiting public spaces, find them wandering by your home, or form relationships with other Sims in your household. What’s important to know is that like real-life friends, if you don’t put in the effort, your friendships will suffer as a consequence. If you don’t have the time, you can always take advantage of The Sims 4 relationship cheats to cultivate friendships, or even your love life, without all the small talk.

Start a family

A family gather around a baby in The Sims 4

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If you want to start a family in The Sims 4, it’s pretty simple. Once you’ve established a loving relationship between two Sims, you can have them WooHoo and try for a baby. You can also adopt a child of different life stages by interacting with your phone, selecting ‘Hire a Service’, and choosing “Adopt a Child”. 

Raising a family is hard work, as you’ll be juggling more Sim’s moods, but without your tiniest of Sims having the ability to do it themselves. Then you’re tying up multiple Sims and, like real-life, wearing the older one out. There’s some handy tips on how to age up a toddler in The Sims 4 that’ll make passing each life stage that little bit quicker and easier.

Earn some Simoleons

A Sim counts a wedge of money in her hand in The Sims 4

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Once you’re playing the game, you’ll realize fairly quickly that you’ll need Simoleons to achieve your wildest dreams. While some players love the pressure of earning and spending scrupulously, others may want to use our how to make more money in Sims 4 guide to get ahead. 

There’s cheat codes you can use, like the infamous motherlode, or there’s tips on hobbies you can take up that make a great return - like gardening, painting, or writing. However you choose to earn your Simoleons, you’ll most definitely find a way to spend them, whether it’s bills, food, or new furniture.

Get expansion packs

A cottage build in The Sims 4

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While the Sims 4 base game has a lot to offer, EA are incredibly good at releasing new content in the form of expansion packs (or game packs for a smaller content update). We’re talking almost 20 different packs from City Living, to Cats & Dogs, to Discover University to name but a few. 

Once you establish what you’re interested in when playing The Sims 4, you’ll have a better idea of what expansion packs will appeal to you the most. When you want to expand your game, getting an expansion pack will grow the possibilities even further.

Try out some cheats

A male Sim throws money all over himself in The Sims 4

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We’ve mentioned this a few times in this article, but using Sims 4 cheats is a fast and effective way to get ahead and achieve certain goals. While it’s not strictly a Sims 4 feature, the console which EA put into the game which enables you to write your codes into is there for good reason. If you’re opposed to using cheats, that’s totally up to personal preference. But, if you at least fancy experimenting with some of the possibilities, there’s all kinds of cheats for you to try.

Learn about mods

A man looks at his phone in The Sims 4

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Lastly, using the best Sims 4 mods will also enhance your experience. While you need to be careful which mods are supported in your game and make sure to save it before you try anything new out, there’s all sorts of things to try from realistic birth to living forever to… deadly toddlers. It can open up an even more expansive world than what’s already on offer, but if you’re happy with what you’ve got, then from this point just enjoy your game.  


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Shabana Arif
Shabana was born looking like a girl wearing a Pikachu hoodie, so when such things became popular, she fitted right in. She writes guides, reviews and features for GR+ when she isn't screaming at Dark Souls 2 on YouTube.
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